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What is your emotional IQ?
emotional_intelligence_kenji_designFor decades, a lot of emphasis has been put on certain aspects of intelligence such as logical reasoning, math skills, spatial skills, understanding analogies, verbal skills etc. Researchers were puzzled by the fact that while IQ could predict to a significant degree academic performance and, to some degree, professional and personal success, there was something missing in the equation. Some of those with fabulous IQ scores were doing poorly in life; one could say that they were wasting their potential by thinking, behaving and communicating in a way that hindered their chances to succeed.

One of the major missing parts in the success equation is emotional intelligence, a concept made popular by the groundbreaking book by Daniel Goleman, which is based on years of research by numerous scientists such as Peter Salovey, John Meyer, Howard Gardner, Robert Sternberg and Jack Block, just to name a few. For various reasons and thanks to a wide range of abilities, people with high emotional intelligence tend to be more successful in life than those with lower EIQ even if their classical IQ is average.
Emotional Intelligence

A form of intelligence relating to the emotional side of life, such as the ability to recognize and manage one’s own

and others’ emotions, to motivate oneself and restrain impulses, and to handle interpersonal relationships effectively.

  - Originated by Daniel Goleman, psychologist, denoting the cluster of traits/abilities relating to the emotional side of life

  - major components of emotional intelligence: knowing our own emotions, managing our own emotions, motivating ourselves, recognizing the emotions of others, and handling relationships


“A learned capability based on emotional intelligence that results in outstanding performance at work. Our emotional intelligence determines our potential for learning the practical skills based on the five elements : self-awareness, motivation, self-regulation, empathy, and adeptness in relationships. Our emotional competence shows how much of that potential we have translated into on-the-job capabilities.” (Goleman, Working with Emotional Intelligence)


Each experience involves an emotional reaction, and to deal with emotions effectively, a person must:
- To observe emotions
- To feel emotions
- To refer to some convey the excitement
- Develop and follow a new strand of action